5 secrets to finding happiness

Is happiness something that is found or something that takes consistency and thoughtfulness?

We all want to be happy, but does your idea of happiness align with what happiness really is? I ask that because many of us say we want to be happy but we equate happiness with money, followers, our career, family life, etc. Happiness is a lifestyle, not a result.

1. Stop chasing happiness.

Instead of using achievements as a way to measure happiness, practice allowing yourself to feel happiness whoever the opportunity comes your way. Choosing happiness is about enjoying the small things and not allowing life stressors bring you down. When times are rough it's easy to feel like you're the only one going through such a tough time, but we're all facing troubles. Everyone has a choice in how they handle things.

2. reevaluate your circle

This is a tough one, but you literally are the company you keep. Energy is transferable and if your closest group of people aren't motivating you, inspiring you, and leveling up with you, they're only holding you back. Now this is not the sign telling you to leave your friends that may be dealing with hard times in the dust. This is about your negative Nancy that is never happy for you, and doesn't bring any positivity to the table.

3. BUILD YOUR SELF ESTEEM

Check in with yourself. Figure out where you find yourself lacking the most in life. When you've got that figured out, you can start to address those needs. Internal problems play a major role in low self-esteem, so really invest the time to look after yourself. The best way to do that? Treat yourself as you'd treat others, in a positive yet honest way.

4. defeat negative self talk

It's impossible to stop thinking negatively entirely, it's apart of us. Something many of us struggle with. So how can you defeat negative self talk? Acknowledge the thought, give yourself the same advice you'd give your friend, then challenge whatever it is you may be thinking. Is the thought true? Realistic? Are you over analyzing? What's the worst that can happen if it is true? Recognizing and challenging negative self talk is another step towards happier days.

5. Be Optimistic

My favorite saying, "Everything starts with a thought!" It's not only true, but depending on the thought, whether it's negative or positive, it starts affects your mood. It's literally up to you to see the glass half full instead of half empty. So lets wrap this up by asking ourselves, are you choosing happiness?